Each item is identified as “Adults,” “Kids,” “TEENS” and “All ages”
ADULTS: Are You Being Bullied At Work? by Aryanne Oade
This book will teach adults to protect themselves by altering the dynamic, as well as preventing mistreatment by workplace abusers. There are credible examples and case studies that will inspire readers to see themselves differently and gain self-confidence. Easy-to-read key facts can be referred to anytime. The full title is Are You Being Bullied At Work?: How to Recover From, Prevent and Cope with a Toxic Workplace. Published in 2024.
ADULTS: The Bully, The Bullied, and the Not-So-Innocent Bystander by Barbara Coloroso
One of my favourite books, because the information is comprehensive and relevant for both children and adult victims of bullying. However, it is directed towards an adult readership. Parents, teachers and social workers, as well as bullied adults, will find helpful information and ideas.
https://www.harpercollins.com/9780062572165/bully-the-bullied-and-the-not-so-innocent-bystander/
KIDS / TEENS: Bullying by Lori Hile (Good for children and teenagers)
Excellent for children and teens, easy to read and full of pictures and illustrations. It shows how to understand and deal with the bullying that occurs everyday in streets, schools, and the digital world.
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/14444934-bullying
KIDS For No Reason by Kathleen Might Gauer (see images of this book on my blog Nov 24, 2019)
For No Reason is a helpful picture book aimed at children between 6 to 8 years old. In it, the first-person protagonist is a girl bullied by a new boy in school. We discover how she deals with it.
https://skippingstonepress.net
ADULTS: The Guardian (UK newspaper) “You're not alone: how to survive your horrible boss”
A useful posting by Adrienne Matei that harrassed workers may find helpful.
ADULTS: The Daily Mail (UK newspaper) “Childhood bullying can lead to suicide even 40 years later” by Emma Innes
Short but important article, worth reading both for those bullied as children, and for parents of today’s kids.
ADULTS: Good Boss, Bad Boss by Robert I. Sutton
Many real-life examples for employees who need to understand more about callous managers.
https://www.gsb.stanford.edu/faculty-research/books/good-boss-bad-boss-how-be-best-learn-worst
ALL AGES: Letters to a Bullied Girl: Messages of Healing and Hope by Olivia Gardner
Two teenagers heard about a girl being badly bullied in a nearby town. They arranged a letter-writing campaign to support her. Hundreds of encouraging letters reached the girl from other bullied kids, from former, remorseful, bullies and from adults. This is a book for the bullied, full of inspiration and practical guidance for kids and suggestions for counsellors.
https://www.amazon.com/Letters-Bullied-Girl-Messages-Healing/dp/0061544620
TEENS: Otherwise Known As Pig by Catch Tilly
Australian book, relentless in its descriptions of a 14-year-old boy bullied at school every day. No adults come to his aid. Unfortunately, this story is common to many children in schools globally. This book gives a sense of how hard it is for victims to protect themselves. Any parent buying this should read it alongside their child, and begin a conversation.
https://www.booktopia.com.au/otherwise-known-as-pig-catch-tilly/book/9781743056790.html
ADULTS: Psychology Today (June 2017)
"How to Handle the Most Toxic People in Your Life" excellent article by Katherine Schreiber
ADULTS: Trust and Betrayal in the Workplace by Dennis and Michelle Reina
This book has many tips to empower everyone at every level of responsibility – not just leaders – to build and sustain trust in their workplaces.
https://www.amazon.ca/Trust-Betrayal-Workplace-Relationships-Organization/dp/1626562571
ADULTS: Healing from Childhood Abuse by John J. Lemoncelli
The author explains the sense of being damaged that many victims of childhood abuse feel. He explains how victims believe they're responsible for the mistreatment they suffered. There are good case histories that show how misplaced that self-blame is. Note: this is a dense book that needs to be read once to get the overall gist of the message, and then a second time to let it sink in. I think the time doing this is well spent.
https://www.amazon.ca/Healing-Childhood-Abuse-Understanding-Effects/dp/0313397880
KIDS/ TEENS: Stop, Speak, Support campaign and site launched with the help of Prince William
Read my blog of November 27, 2018 for more information.
https://www.stopspeaksupport.com/
ADULTS: Mastering Civility: A Manifesto for the Workplace by Christine Porath
Protect yourself from those who don’t show courtesy and respect. Porath’s website explains her premise well.
http://www.christineporath.com
TEENS: Mean Girls Movie (Good for teenagers)
Tina Fey from Saturday Night Live wrote and appears in this comedy about the alternately funny and terrifying pecking order among teenage girls.
https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/mean_girls/
ADULTS / TEENS: A Brave Heart: The Lizzie Velasquez Story Movie
Lizzie’s triumphant journey to the other side of bullying, and her mission to inspire and empower a more positive online environment.
https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/a_brave_heart_the_lizzie_velasquez_story/
Lizzie is STILL battling bullying. This time - can you believe it - from mothers of schoolchildren. Read here about her ongoing struggle. She is a very strong woman. (posted August 2020)
https://ca.style.yahoo.com/disability-activist-condemns-facetime-tiktok-trend-211905157.html
ADULTS: Work-Life Balance by Linda Duxbury
Good advice on this website.
https://www.speakers.ca/speakers/dr-linda-duxbury/
ADULTS: Two links re: understanding the law on workplace violence and harassment (many countries have a version of these Canadian webpages)
https://www.ontario.ca/page/understand-law-workplace-violence-and-harassment
https://www.labour.gov.on.ca/english/hs/pubs/fs_wvh_atwork.php
ALL AGES: Two Australian helpline links worth reading and contacting re: understanding