I saw this on social media somewhere (couldn’t find a writer’s name) and I felt it was worth repeating here.
Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority” — and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person” — and they think they’re being fair, but they aren’t.